127.0.0.1 wrote:
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> Adolescents: Dealing with Normal Rebellion
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> During adolescence, teens work on becoming more independent. Your teen must
> cast aside the dependent parent-child relationship. Before he can develop
> an adult relationship with his parents, a teen must first distance himself
> from the way he related to his parents in the past. This usually means
> there will be a certain amount of normal rebellion, defiance, discontent,
> and restlessness. Emotions usually run high. Mood swings are common. This
> rebellion continues for about 2 years, but it is not uncommon for it to
> last for 4 to 6 years.
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It lasts till you have to stop abusing them because the law makes
you, you dunce! ANY HUMAN of ANY AGE will act like "teenagers" are
supposed to act if you dishonor and disrespect them and intefere
with their freedom!! It is popular garbage in this culture to pretend
that this NORMAL HUMAN REACTION to BEING OPPRESSED is some special
magical condition of some certain age-group!!
> How do I deal with my teenager's rebellion?
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Treat them the way you SHOULD have been treating your child ALL ALONG,
namely, treat them as you have to treat your ADULT FRIENDS IN ORDER
TO HAVE ANY!!
> The following guidelines may help you and your teenager through this
> difficult time. Treat your teenager as an adult friend.
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Too late! You SHOULD have treated your CHILD as you have to your
friends!
> By the time your child is 12 years old, start working on developing the kind
> of relationship you would like to have with your child when she is an
> adult. Treat your child the way you would like her to treat you when she is
> an adult.
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If you start treating them decently this late in life, after having
abused and humiliated them for 12 or 13 years, they will think you're
insane and avoid you! They won't believe it, and they will remember
even more clearly all the past slights and abuses. They won't
trust you and they will feel you're up to something REALLY stupid.
> Your goal is mutual respect, support, and the ability to have fun
> together. Strive for relaxed, casual conversations during bicycling,
> hiking, shopping, playing catch, driving, cooking, mealtime, working, and
> other times together. Use praise and trust to help build her self-esteem.
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A teen is merely going to be grossed out and feel you're acting
inappropriately and unreliably weird if you suddenly start pretending
to be their equal after having abused them all their lives. They will
get a feeling like unto being molested.
If you have never treated them as an equal before, you'd better just
go the fuck away and leave them the hell alone!
> Recognize your child's feelings by listening and making nonjudgmental
> comments. Remember that listening doesn't mean you have to solve your
> teen's problems.
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More simplistic garbage.
If you had cultivated equality with your child all their lives, you
would be able to discuss and even argue as friends do. But if you
have put yourself in a position of power over them, and then suddenly
want to be "friends" and equals all of a sudden, they will distrust you
and feel like you're molesting them if you suddenly
pretend to be accepting. Just go them fuck away and left them and
their friends to raise themselves the rest of the way.
> Why did you try to insinuate that rebellion wasn't normal behavior, and try
> to imply that it was something that only hate filled teenages do?
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Why do you imagine that you can deceive them now at this late date?
> >>As for what you
> >>can do, Hmmmmm, how about you stop being such a bitch and show some
> >>understanding.
> >
> > And what do you offer as evidence that this person is being a b*tch?
>
> She could have looked up websites like the one I included above instead of
> bitching about it.....
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Ehhhhhhhhhh, no.
Steve
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