In one age, called the Second Age by some,
(an Age yet to come, an Age long past)
someone claiming to be 127.0.0.1 wrote
in message <I_nxh.22$HS2.21@newsfe06.lga>:
>Roger wrote:
>>>> how do i punish a 14 yr old boy for not doing as he is told? what are
>>>> some suggestions?
>>>14 is a normal rebellious age. Tell most 14 year olds not to do something
>>>and they 'will' do it out of spite just to piss you off.
>> No, that's just hate filled idiot children like yourself.
>You've never been right about anything Roger.
And yet, I always put you to rout.
Funny, that...
>For once, try to learn
>something before you shoot off at the keyboard. (Think Before You Type)
>
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>Adolescents: Dealing with Normal Rebellion
>
>During adolescence, teens work on becoming more independent. Your teen must
>cast aside the dependent parent-child relationship. Before he can develop
>an adult relationship with his parents, a teen must first distance himself
>from the way he related to his parents in the past. This usually means
>there will be a certain amount of normal rebellion, defiance, discontent,
>and restlessness. Emotions usually run high. Mood swings are common. This
>rebellion continues for about 2 years, but it is not uncommon for it to
>last for 4 to 6 years.
>How do I deal with my teenager's rebellion?
>
>The following guidelines may help you and your teenager through this
>difficult time. Treat your teenager as an adult friend.
>
>By the time your child is 12 years old, start working on developing the kind
>of relationship you would like to have with your child when she is an
>adult. Treat your child the way you would like her to treat you when she is
>an adult. Your goal is mutual respect, support, and the ability to have fun
>together. Strive for relaxed, casual conversations during bicycling,
>hiking, shopping, playing catch, driving, cooking, mealtime, working, and
>other times together. Use praise and trust to help build her self-esteem.
>Recognize your child's feelings by listening and making nonjudgmental
>comments. Remember that listening doesn't mean you have to solve your
>teen's problems.
>
>Continued at:
>http://www.med.umich.edu/1libr/pa/pa_badolesc_hhg.htm
Now, where does that say that most 14 year olds will specifically do
what they are told not to for spite?
>Why did you try to insinuate that rebellion wasn't normal behavior, and try
>to imply that it was something that only hate filled teenages do?
No, I was more specific than that: regularly doing something they are
told not to for spite is *not* normal behaviour for well adjusted
teenagers.
I am well aware that this qualification leaves you out in the cold.
>>>As for what you
>>>can do, Hmmmmm, how about you stop being such a bitch and show some
>>>understanding.
>> And what do you offer as evidence that this person is being a b*tch?
>She could have looked up websites like the one I included above instead of
>bitching about it.....
I saw no b*tching, just a request for input.
And one notes that you continue to pretend that if it's on the web, it
must be true...
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