On 19 Jul 2010 18:04:26 GMT, David <not@home.net> wrote:
>NP-f31 <dudewiththe(REMOVE)hair@hushmail.com> wrote in
>news:kedv369ri360u4o40g5miguj4udk0srpf4@4ax.com:
>
>>
>>
>> Hey David and DT!
>>
>> Thanks for clarifying your 'cryptic quote' in the previous post. Yes,
>> yes, yes trust is a two-way street. When it comes to the deep feelings
>> of love that DT is exploring trust is the crux, isn't it? Whether the
>> object of our affection is male or female, broaching that critical
>> subject of 'this is how I feel about you' hinges on how comfortable
>> you feel when it comes to trusting your heart to another. A dear
>> friend in The Fort some years ago, Spencer (NP-f30) was a few months
>> older than DT when he discovered that he had strong feelings for his
>> best friend Ricky. He got a lot of mixed signals from Ricky. Ricky was
>> very affectionate to Spencer, but he also had a 'girlfriend'. We
>> talked about how to let Ricky know that Spencer had strong feelings
>> for him. I told Spencer that 'normally' I would advocate being direct,
>> but since we didn't really know how Ricky felt, we should consider his
>> feelings and say something that could be construed two ways. If Ricky
>> reacted negatively, then Spencer could say, 'Oh, I meant THIS, not
>> that.' But Spencer was in love and impetuous and he swung for the
>> fences (American euphemism for going for broke) he ended up freaking
>> Ricky out and spoiling their friendship. And a lot of other bad things
>> ensued.
>>
>> I sympathize with DT if he is experiencing such emotions. At almost 13
>> DT has just begun to figure out his own emotions and reading the heart
>> of someone else is damn near impossible. If I might suggest to DT,
>> your friend David seems a level headed sort. You might bounce ideas
>> off him. If David is the object of affection, well.....it's probably
>> okay to hug him.
>>
>> Double Trouble, if I may be so bold:
>>
>> The guys in here, David, VV, Grant, Zackie, Chad, et al. we're all
>> about helping boys like you. You've been following our heartfelt
>> discussions and insane mutterings. Is there something YOU would like
>> us to discuss? We're here for you, young dude. We'll be thrilled to do
>> what we love to do anyway in the service of one of our young friends.
>>
>> Be careful though, you might end up as a usenet rock star like Spencer
>> Dude did. LOL!
>>
>> Much love and affection,
>>
>> Doc
>> NP-f31
>>
>Doc,
>
>Thanks for your interesting and kind response. Boarding school has claimed
>DT for a few weeks but the message will keep until the next long weekend.
>
>Responding to DT is fun especially as I see a growing maturity taking place
>and other new emotions start to kick in and being in the position to
>indicate directions to explore and discuss. That there is an anonymous
>sounding board to talk to, other than myself, is good as it will reflect
>either complementary or different views. There is also a great fun side
>with a lovely sense of humour to DT and another side that is very caring
>and protective of family, friends and friendships. Just how much DT will
>share here is, of course, an unknown. Lets wait ans see.
>
>David
Hey David,
A few weeks? How will you survive?????
It is anonymous here, no one knows who DT is and even if he reveals
his most guarded secrets no one will know. Just remind him to not
reveal any personal information when he posts. Hopefully you can act
as a buffer in that regard. Nearly everyting I post in these groups is
aimed at the boys I know are here and lurking. Maybe not so much here,
but certainly in The Fort. To actually have one or two boys
participate in our discussions will make our efforts truly worthwhile
and give us some feedback on how boys view us and the way we think and
act.
Next week I will be going on vacation with two of my loved boys T-Bone
(NP-g15) and Mac (they are best friends and lovers). Grant has decided
to include T-Bone in some of his Stevie stories in The Fort and T-Bone
has an interest in reading them, so we will likely pop in here as
well. Perhaps seeing that other teens venture here and perhaps leave
their commentary might embolden DT.
In the meantime, maybe we can gear our discussions up a wee bit to
give the guys something to consider when they arrive here.
Stay Safe,
Doc
NP-f31
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