NP-f31 <dudewiththe(REMOVE)hair@hushmail.com> wrote in
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>
>
> Hey David and DT!
>
> Thanks for clarifying your 'cryptic quote' in the previous post. Yes,
> yes, yes trust is a two-way street. When it comes to the deep feelings
> of love that DT is exploring trust is the crux, isn't it? Whether the
> object of our affection is male or female, broaching that critical
> subject of 'this is how I feel about you' hinges on how comfortable
> you feel when it comes to trusting your heart to another. A dear
> friend in The Fort some years ago, Spencer (NP-f30) was a few months
> older than DT when he discovered that he had strong feelings for his
> best friend Ricky. He got a lot of mixed signals from Ricky. Ricky was
> very affectionate to Spencer, but he also had a 'girlfriend'. We
> talked about how to let Ricky know that Spencer had strong feelings
> for him. I told Spencer that 'normally' I would advocate being direct,
> but since we didn't really know how Ricky felt, we should consider his
> feelings and say something that could be construed two ways. If Ricky
> reacted negatively, then Spencer could say, 'Oh, I meant THIS, not
> that.' But Spencer was in love and impetuous and he swung for the
> fences (American euphemism for going for broke) he ended up freaking
> Ricky out and spoiling their friendship. And a lot of other bad things
> ensued.
>
> I sympathize with DT if he is experiencing such emotions. At almost 13
> DT has just begun to figure out his own emotions and reading the heart
> of someone else is damn near impossible. If I might suggest to DT,
> your friend David seems a level headed sort. You might bounce ideas
> off him. If David is the object of affection, well.....it's probably
> okay to hug him.
>
> Double Trouble, if I may be so bold:
>
> The guys in here, David, VV, Grant, Zackie, Chad, et al. we're all
> about helping boys like you. You've been following our heartfelt
> discussions and insane mutterings. Is there something YOU would like
> us to discuss? We're here for you, young dude. We'll be thrilled to do
> what we love to do anyway in the service of one of our young friends.
>
> Be careful though, you might end up as a usenet rock star like Spencer
> Dude did. LOL!
>
> Much love and affection,
>
> Doc
> NP-f31
>
Doc,
Thanks for your interesting and kind response. Boarding school has claimed
DT for a few weeks but the message will keep until the next long weekend.
Responding to DT is fun especially as I see a growing maturity taking place
and other new emotions start to kick in and being in the position to
indicate directions to explore and discuss. That there is an anonymous
sounding board to talk to, other than myself, is good as it will reflect
either complementary or different views. There is also a great fun side
with a lovely sense of humour to DT and another side that is very caring
and protective of family, friends and friendships. Just how much DT will
share here is, of course, an unknown. Lets wait ans see.
David
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