On Mon, 22 Nov 2010 21:04:27 -0500, Doc NP-f31 wrote:
>Hello No Pube OOO,
>
>Thank you for sharing your thoughts. A lot of what you say I agree
>with. But you are pretty unapologetic about not loving those children
>you have bedded. It's nice for you that they still love you, I
>suppose. But I find it hard to respect your attitude. I do not judge
>you, who am I to judge? I do not condemn you. I am in no position to
>do such a thing. Butyour words clearly indicate that these
>relationships you've had have been mostly about your own sexual
>gratification.
>
>In my work with boys who have been used by men for sex, I see the
>damage that is left behind. It's not pretty. I am dealing with three
>boys right now who cannot have a relationship with a man one-on-one.
>They don't trust anyone, really except those they can control or pose
>no threat, like younger boys. Having been abused by my Uncle when I
>was eight, I understand how they feel. But that very fact that they
>can't dealwith adults, condemns them to a cycle of acting out on boys,
>unless they choose to break the cycle. I have.
>
>As for your dislike for the term 'boylover', I agree that it is
>insufficient to choose one word as a label to define ourselves. I have
>chosen to use 'boylover' as a way to differentiate myself from those
>who love boys selfishly. I love boys unselfishly. That's the only real
>difference between us, I guess. Except this: I would not choose to
>teach a boy that society's rules don't apply to me. I try to teach my
>boys to recognize injustice and work toward changing unjust rules and
>laws. Which, of course, was the entire point of my original post;
>which was sadly lost on you.
>
>Stay Safe and try to be unselfish,
>
>Doc
>NP-f31
If I may interject doc -- I will not condemn _him_ either, but I damn
well do condemn the way he uses boys for his own selfish wants. And I
think it's horribly sad that he can only love one person at a time --
the heart was made to stretch with each new love that enters your life
-- not eject the others as if there weren't enough room.
Personally, I like the term "boylover" because it reminds me that the
main person is the boy and that the main purpose is to love -- not to
fuck over.
-- 4s00th@hushmail.com
My email is always available for those looking for and willing to supply support in the effort to remain boy-lovers and not become child-molesters de jure if not de facto.
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