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Subject: Re: A Boy Moment
Date: Tue, 09 Feb 2010 09:10:40 -0500
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On 8 Feb 2010 23:43:01 -0600, " +Grant. " <+Grant@grant.grant> wrote:
>In article <pqd1n5lum86lrm5hfc2jkrbumfilc3rnia@4ax.com>, NP-f31 wrote:
>
>> On 8 Feb 2010 16:44:02 -0600, " +Grant. " <+Grant@grant.grant> wrote:
>>
>> >In article <3f2nm5psp2uun49nam47792u93umh43lck@4ax.com>, NP-f31 wrote:
>> >
>> >> People used to share things like this in The Fort all the time, but
>> >> these days folks seldom do.
>> >>
>> >> I have been having an e-mail conversation about what being a
>> >> boylover means to me with one of the new boys in my life. Something
>> >> happened yesterday that is a perfect illustration of what it means to
>> >> me and how I deal with it. I shared this with him and I wanted to
>> >> share it with you too as this is something that probably happens to
>> >> all of us, but we don't talk about it. I wanted to see if others had
>> >> similar experiences.
>> >>
>> >> I was doing some grocery shopping yesterday at Walmart. I was in an
>> >> aisle and there was a lot of congestion. As I waited I rolled up
>> >> behind a mom and her (probably) four year old son. He was a
>> >> beautiful little fellow with a bored expression on his face, it was
>> >> bordering on melancholy. Mom was preoccupied and he was sort of
>> >> looking around for something of interest to stimulate him. I was
>> >> right in front of him on the other side of my cart. I waited until
>> >> he looked at me, which he eventually did, and I gave him my
>> >> biggest, broadest boysmile. It's that unique smile that I reserve only
>> >> for boys, it sort of says 'you're special' to the boy with whom I
>> >> share it. He was looking at me and the smile registered on his
>> >> face, I could see him begin to understand that I was paying
>> >> attention to HIM. As this realization occurred he responded with
>> >> the warmest, most genuine, happy expression I've ever seen. His
>> >> little face lit up! And the joy in his smile literally made my
>> >> heart jump. It was not only the reaction I'd hoped for, it went
>> >> beyond that. In that moment we connected. His Mom, at this point,
>> >> got behind her cart (they call them buggies down here) and took off
>> >> in the general direction I was heading. He immediately went from
>> >> one side to the other to look around her and maintain eye contact with
>> >> me. I gave him a little wave and began to follow them now that the way
>> >> was open. He grinned and waved back, clearly enjoying having a
>> >> playmate. As I reached the intersection a cart came from left to right
>> >> at speed and I had to wait to follow. Once I cleared the perpendicular
>> >> aisle, I lost track of my buddy. Then I saw him off to my right and
>> >> ahead of me. He was craning his body to keep me in sight. They
>> >> passed a display rack in the middle of one of the wide aisles and
>> >> he lifted up to look over so he could see me. He and his Mom were
>> >> now going the exact wrong way from where I needed to go. I debated
>> >> shadowing them for a bit longer, but decided that it would be the
>> >> wrong thing to do. I caught one last glimpse of him as I turned
>> >> left and I lifted my hand to wave and he was gone. I continued to
>> >> keep an eye out for him as I completed my shopping, but I didn't
>> >> see him. I still had a warm feeling from the sweet expression on
>> >> his face. I had made him feel good for a moment and he made my day.
>> >>
>> >> Isn't it amazing what a simple smile can do? Please share your boy
>> >> moments.
>> >>
>> >> Stay Safe,
>> >>
>> >> Doc
>> >> NP-f31
>> >
>> >
>> >Good post.
>> >
>> >It works different for me. I atomically get kids attention if any of my
>> >assistive hardware is visible. They stare and ask what is that? Their
>> >parents are embarrassed and tell the kids not to stare. I give them a
>> >big smile and tell them its ok and tell them its to help me because I
>> >was hurt in the Army and there are still problems but it doesn't hurt
>> >anymore. Parents are very nice about it then. I shake hands with them
>> >all and we say nice things to each other like "thank you for your
>> >service" and "your kids are very nice you must be proud of them" and I
>> >joke with the kids. There is a little problem will untethered toddlers
>> >who grab for things but I joke I need it more than they do.
>> >
>> >Grant
>>
>>
>> Hi Grant,
>>
>> I expect it would be a bit different, having your equipment would be
>> like a 'toddler magnet. The way you handle it is graceful and also an
>> effective way to show children (and their parents) that curiosity is
>> not a bad thing AND that that having special equipment that helps you
>> function is nothing to be ashamed about. I think you'd be more than
>> correct in saying that your equipment doesn't make you different, it
>> makes you 'special'. And not in a short yellow bus kind of way. ;)
>>
>> And one more thing Grant. I've said it before and I'll say it again.
>>
>> Thank you for your service and sacrifice.
>>
>> Respectfully,
>>
>> Doc
>> NP-f31
>
>
>You're welcome.
>
>Please let me disagree a little. I think everybody is special each in
>his/her/tran way. But I have to think young people are more special
>because they still have the ability to build who they want to be, if
>only they knew it.
>Toddler magnet is right! Get two of them and I'm the object of a
>tug-of-war! LOL
>
>Sorry I misspelled "atomically". My spell checker should have caught
>that. I don't know why it didn't. This time I made a special effort to
>write right. Correctly, too?
>
>I have more stories to write and post. Want to know about the first
>time my Dad tried to fry a turkey? For Christmas? In the snow? Would it
>spoil the ending to tell you I didn't die? LOL There are more Stevie
>adventures. Is anybody interested? Is this a good time to post them?
>
>Take care
>
>Grant
Please share!
Doc
NP-f31
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