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From: NP-f31
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Subject: Re: A Boy Moment
Date: Mon, 08 Feb 2010 20:21:31 -0500
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On 8 Feb 2010 16:44:02 -0600, " +Grant. " <+Grant@grant.grant> wrote:
>In article <3f2nm5psp2uun49nam47792u93umh43lck@4ax.com>, NP-f31 wrote:
>
>> People used to share things like this in The Fort all the time, but
>> these days folks seldom do.
>>
>> I have been having an e-mail conversation about what being a
>> boylover means to me with one of the new boys in my life. Something
>> happened yesterday that is a perfect illustration of what it means to
>> me and how I deal with it. I shared this with him and I wanted to
>> share it with you too as this is something that probably happens to
>> all of us, but we don't talk about it. I wanted to see if others had
>> similar experiences.
>>
>> I was doing some grocery shopping yesterday at Walmart. I was in an
>> aisle and there was a lot of congestion. As I waited I rolled up
>> behind a mom and her (probably) four year old son. He was a
>> beautiful little fellow with a bored expression on his face, it was
>> bordering on melancholy. Mom was preoccupied and he was sort of
>> looking around for something of interest to stimulate him. I was
>> right in front of him on the other side of my cart. I waited until
>> he looked at me, which he eventually did, and I gave him my
>> biggest, broadest boysmile. It's that unique smile that I reserve only
>> for boys, it sort of says 'you're special' to the boy with whom I
>> share it. He was looking at me and the smile registered on his
>> face, I could see him begin to understand that I was paying
>> attention to HIM. As this realization occurred he responded with
>> the warmest, most genuine, happy expression I've ever seen. His
>> little face lit up! And the joy in his smile literally made my
>> heart jump. It was not only the reaction I'd hoped for, it went
>> beyond that. In that moment we connected. His Mom, at this point,
>> got behind her cart (they call them buggies down here) and took off
>> in the general direction I was heading. He immediately went from
>> one side to the other to look around her and maintain eye contact with
>> me. I gave him a little wave and began to follow them now that the way
>> was open. He grinned and waved back, clearly enjoying having a
>> playmate. As I reached the intersection a cart came from left to right
>> at speed and I had to wait to follow. Once I cleared the perpendicular
>> aisle, I lost track of my buddy. Then I saw him off to my right and
>> ahead of me. He was craning his body to keep me in sight. They
>> passed a display rack in the middle of one of the wide aisles and
>> he lifted up to look over so he could see me. He and his Mom were
>> now going the exact wrong way from where I needed to go. I debated
>> shadowing them for a bit longer, but decided that it would be the
>> wrong thing to do. I caught one last glimpse of him as I turned
>> left and I lifted my hand to wave and he was gone. I continued to
>> keep an eye out for him as I completed my shopping, but I didn't
>> see him. I still had a warm feeling from the sweet expression on
>> his face. I had made him feel good for a moment and he made my day.
>>
>> Isn't it amazing what a simple smile can do? Please share your boy
>> moments.
>>
>> Stay Safe,
>>
>> Doc
>> NP-f31
>
>
>Good post.
>
>It works different for me. I atomically get kids attention if any of my
>assistive hardware is visible. They stare and ask what is that? Their
>parents are embarrassed and tell the kids not to stare. I give them a
>big smile and tell them its ok and tell them its to help me because I
>was hurt in the Army and there are still problems but it doesn't hurt
>anymore. Parents are very nice about it then. I shake hands with them
>all and we say nice things to each other like "thank you for your
>service" and "your kids are very nice you must be proud of them" and I
>joke with the kids. There is a little problem will untethered toddlers
>who grab for things but I joke I need it more than they do.
>
>Grant
Hi Grant,
I expect it would be a bit different, having your equipment would be
like a 'toddler magnet. The way you handle it is graceful and also an
effective way to show children (and their parents) that curiosity is
not a bad thing AND that that having special equipment that helps you
function is nothing to be ashamed about. I think you'd be more than
correct in saying that your equipment doesn't make you different, it
makes you 'special'. And not in a short yellow bus kind of way. ;)
And one more thing Grant. I've said it before and I'll say it again.
Thank you for your service and sacrifice.
Respectfully,
Doc
NP-f31
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