"Dr.Reality" <james_riske@nothingwillhappen_hotmail.com> wrote in message
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> The following article shows why pedophiles should just end their pathetic,
> miserable lives, they are nothing more than a menace to children
> everywhere.
>
>
> HOW PEDOPHILES OPERATE
hello james
i hope it is you writing this post, you have got some things right
and some things are a bit doubt full, i will discuss them as i go
down the list
>
>
>
> How do pedophiles work? How do they get children to agree to be
> sexual
> with them?
some paedophiles dont have to do this, they have a personality that the
children like, and like being with them, some boys will ask, do you want
to see my willie, some will rub themselves against the one the like
> What is their "modus operandi?" This page will attempt to give you an
> overview of the way pedophiles operate and how parents can take steps to
> protect their kids.
> First we shall define our terms. There is a difference between child
> molesters and pedophiles. A child molester is often a stranger to the
> family. He is the one who targets a child he sees and often acts almost
> immediately on his impulse. He will grab the child, perform sexual acts,
> and sometimes will then murder the child.
yes this is true the papers have comented on sutch happenings, these people
give paedophiles a very bad name.
This is the criminal who will
> snatch a child from the grocery store, the mall, the park, or even from in
> front of the child's own house. These men have no love for children
> whatsoever.
very true i have had the misfortune of meeting one of these people.
They act out of violence and a need to exert power over those
> who are weaker than themselves. While child molesters are often
> strangers,
> they can also be family members, neighbors or friends of the family.
very true, in this state of south australia, there is a prison called yatla
and two brothers were imprisoned here, after molesting their victim
they cut of his penis and left him to die.
> Pedophiles, on the other hand, genuinely like kids. Somewhere along
> the way their thinking regarding love, sex, and kids became completely
> muddled. Most of them are very insecure and lonely. They feel that only
> children will give them unconditional love,
not so some paedo philes are loved by the children and enjoy being in the
company of a paedophile, this wears of when pubity is reached and the friend
ship remains, with preditors this never happens.
and in their psychologically
> unbalanced minds, they equate love with sex even when the object of their
> affection is a child.
no this is not quite correct according to valid research being done at this
time
there are at least 6 genes that are responsible for homosexual lifestyle
information comes to me via the Australian Broadcasting News Network
on saturday nights called the sience report, and on sunday night staestuf
with reports about NASA, planets and stars, i will be listening tonight.
They do not view their behavior as wrong. They
> believe that adult men have the right to have sex with kids if there is
> mutual consent.
yes this is so, some children do aproach adults for sex, and it is the adult
that is imprisoned for giving into a child's request, the age of pubity is
the
lowest it has it has been in history, we have 10 year old boys sahaving and
10 year old girls who are quit able to have babies, these children are mutch
taller than those who have not reached pubity at that age
They feel that they are far in advance of the viewpoints of
> society on this issue. Many pedophiles see it from the NAMBLA (North
> American Man Boy Love Association) viewpoint, although of course not all
> pedophiles are NAMBLA members. It's interesting that you don't see many
> boys running amuck saying they want to have sex with men.
the greatest dammage is when the relationship is discovered, then all the
agencies,
childrens welfare, police, social workers and parents get involved, the
child is terorised
by all this and is forced to testify aginst the person they have loved, the
child is never
asked about how they feel, and is told their lover is a horible person and
that
sex is filthy.
> A high percentage of pedophiles had bad experiences during their
> childhoods.
true if a preditor was involved
Some were sexually abused themselves. Many were lacking a good
> male role model.
yes true, father or mother drunk most of the time, like my father was
Some were actually beaten and abused by their fathers or
> had fathers who withheld love from them.
true
This made them feel unworthy,
> insecure, lonely and without love.
true
After all, they reasoned, if their own
> father could not love them, they must be worthless creatures indeed. Or
> their thinking went the other way and they decided that their fathers did
> love them, so abuse must be a way of showing love.
my father would come home drunk, if he saw any one watching tele and
were very happy, he had to abuse them, many times we had to get of the
house and come back when he was asleep.
These men reached
> adulthood with very little, if any, self-esteem. Their thinking became
> warped and their psyches became deeply wounded. An important part of the
> pedophile never grew up but remained a hurt child.
yes some where
> Many pedophiles do child-like things. They still color in coloring
> books, play in the sandbox with their little trucks, and decorate their
> rooms with toys and items that reflect the age of the child they are
> fixated
> with.
i have never seen this type of behaviour from the ones i know
They say things like "I see the world through the eyes of a child,"
> or "Growing old is mandatory; growing up is optional."
true some people cannot grow old gracefully
They read children's
> books, see kid-oriented movies, and play children's games. They think of
> themselves as kids and are much more comfortable around kids than around
> other adults.
never heard of this type of activity
> Pedophiles find ways to be around children as often as possible.
> They
> get jobs as teachers, camp counselors, schoolbus drivers, daycare workers,
> or even enter the priesthood. They volunteer as Boy Scout leaders, church
> or secular youth workers, or with organizations such as Trucker Buddy
> International. Of course most of the people in these professions and
> volunteer positions are not pedophiles, and are indeed honest, moral and
> upright people, but most pedophiles will seek out these type of
> occupations
> and volunteer positions. They look for opportunities to be around kids as
> much as possible.
yes and most will remain celabate
> Some will even marry or become roommates with women who have
> children.
> Or they become friends with single moms to have access to their kids.
> They
> seek out those kids whose fathers are no longer in their lives. The moms
> usually see these men as an answer to their prayers, for here at last is a
> man who is willing to spend time with their children and be that role
> model
> they've been looking for. Kids crave attention, affection and kindness,
> and
> here is someone who is willing to give these things to their child.
> Little
> do they know that this man they trust, who comes across as being friendly,
> helpful and trustworthy, is a pedophile and is quite knowledgeable about
> the
> methods of grooming kids for seduction.
sometimes the boot is on the other foot and children will initiate the
action
after all he is not their father
> A pedophile will spend a lot of time getting the child ready for
> seduction. Sometimes he will take months or even a year or two "grooming"
> the child and preparing him. He uses this time to build up the child's
> trust in him and to get the child to see him as his best friend. He
> slowly
> seduces the child by doing such things as playing with him and being in
> close contact with him. He will tickle the child and give him "tummy
> farts."
they are known as rasberries
He will watch movies with the child and sit very close to him,
> often putting his arm around the child or even having the child sit on his
> lap. The child, of course, feels that this man really cares about him and
> that he can talk to him about anything. If there is a father figure or
> other male role model missing from the child's life, then of course the
> pedophile knows that this child is just the victim he is looking for. He,
> however, does not view the child as a victim, but a person he can share
> love, fun and pleasure with. The thing to remember is that the pedophile
> does not think like a normal adult.
not true
Indeed, he has serious psychological
> imbalances and views his actions in the same way as an adult male who is
> attempting seduction of an adult female. And the pedophile does not
> usually
> stop with just one child; he often has several that he is grooming at
> once.
not true children are very capable of intense jelousy, will hate the other
intruders
> Sometimes he is grooming some while actually in the sexual relationship
> stage with others.
this has happened here a man played one boy against the other
> A pedophile will take the child he is grooming many places, such as
> to
> movies, roller skating rinks, amusement parks, the zoo, and fairs and
> festivals. He spends a lot of time with the child and invests as much
> money
> as possible. He buys the child toys and even gives him clothes and
> trinkets. He spends as much time alone with the child as he can.
yes and most do not do any thing some will, most single mother's will be
glad
that some one is keeping the children out of her hair
What
> child would not have warm feelings toward a man who acts like he truly
> cares
> about him, pays him a lot of attention, and spends an enormous amount of
> time and money on him? Most pedophiles are likable people and they groom
> the kids to like them.
> Many pedophiles have a group of children who they seduce at once.
then they are foolish for doing so there is no privacy
> Sometimes he will invite the neighborhood children to his home to watch
> videos and play video games. He will give them candy and other snack
> foods.
> Eventually he will bring out the video camera. Often the kids are groomed
> for months before he builds up their trust enough to let him fondle them
> and
> use the video camera on them. This is one of the ways that child porno
> makes its rounds on nasty internet sites.
could be true, most of the video's and pictures are from rusia, one site
has been closed, there are still more around, these video's and pictures
are stored in many servers and will take a long time to eradicate them.
> The pedophile loves it when the child has his own email address.
> This
> way he can correspond with the child whenever he wishes and say things
> that
> will make the grooming process go even faster. The man who I discovered
> was
> grooming my 12-year-old son found out that he had just obtained his first
> email account, and he said to my son, "Good. Now we don't have to go
> through
> your mom." That was one of the first red flags for me. You can find out
> the rest of the story of my experiences with a pedophile by clicking on
> the
> link in the middle of this webpage.
this was the wrong attitude, you had every right to suspisious
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> Many pedophiles are becoming quite adept at finding their victims
> online. They use screennames that are attached to profiles describing
> themselves as young teens. Then they go into kid and teen chatrooms
> looking
> for kids who they think may be easy prey. If they happen to get caught
> doing this, they will say that they only go in these rooms to feel like a
> kid again and to relieve the stresses of life.
they have not grown up, if i ever go into any chat room(not enough hours
in a day), i will state my age, which is 63, i also talk to young people on
the ham bands.
They will swear that they
> never went into private chat with any child. If you believe that, I have
> oceanfront property in Arizona I could sell you. The truth is that not
> only
> do they go into private chat with some of the kids, they often take it a
> step further and set up times and places to meet a few young teens in
> person. The man I knew used the screenname minnesotaunicorn.
> Pedophiles used to be social outcasts and loners, but with the
> internet
> they now have access to others who are just like them. They exchange
> information with each other using email, chatrooms and message boards. A
> pedophile can go online and learn the best ways to groom and seduce a
> child,
> what kind of kids to look for, where to find them and how to go about it
> with the least risk of getting caught. They learn just what to say and do
> to ensure that the child is not likely to tell. They also learn what to
> do
> and say if they are caught. Pedophiles have their own online networking
> system.
then they are foolish
> If a pedophile is asked outright if he has ever molested a child, he
> will deny it.
you protect your young friend at all cost's
He does not look at it as molesting the child. Instead, he
> sees it as sharing love with the child and giving the child pleasure.
> While
> it may be true that children can feel sexual pleasure, it is abhorrent to
> think of a grown man using this against the innocence of a child. The
> adult
> always has the responsibility to protect the child, not to use him to
> fulfill his own sick desires. Then too, the adult always has a position
> of
> power over the child if only because he is bigger and stronger and often
> holds a position of authority, such as in the case of the adult being a
> teacher or camp worker. To misuse that authority and the trust that the
> kids and parents have in him is not only immoral and unethical but is also
> downright disgusting.
> The child may indeed feel some sort of passive pleasure in being
> fondled and kissed, and may feel that the perpetrator is simply being nice
> to him, but at the same time the child feels guilty, confused and shamed.
> The pedophile uses these emotions to keep the child from telling what has
> happened. One policeman who has dealt with pedophiles for twenty years in
> his line of work told me that these men "have various ways of convincing
> kids to not tell the truth about their encounters.
wany children dont want any else to know baout the relationship, some
paedophiles will say that and force the child to be silent, not a good
friend
for the child.
These guys know exactly
> what buttons to push on a kid to make him keep quiet. Depending on the
> child, they will use shame, fear, threats of physical harm, and many other
> tactics so that the child won't inform the parents of wrongdoing on the
> part
> of the suspect. Make no mistake, these people have had years of
> experience
> in not only coercing kids, but also in convincing them not to tell."
mot true some children dont want the relationship to be known about,
some children will want to bring their friends into the relationship,
this is not good at all.
> He went on to tell me that the pedophile will tell the child such
> things as, "How would your mother feel if she knew you and I had done
> this?
> You started it you know, you came on to me. It would be just terrible on
> her, and she might even commit suicide or something." They try to make
> the
> child feel guilty, ashamed and afraid so he won't tell anyone.
> This law enforcement officer also told me that one pedophile claimed
> that an eight year old boy propositioned him and that is why he molested
> him! The pedophile will resort to any manipulative and devious reasoning
> to
> convince themselves that what they are doing is okay. Apparently these
> men
> are also experts at hiding the nature of their deviant sexual desires.
> Most
> of their friends, relatives, neighbors, coworkers and acquaintances are
> shocked when they find out that the man they know and like so much is a
> pedophile. They would never have guessed it, as he always seemed so
> likable, helpful and friendly.
yes this happens
> Some pedophiles hide behind an excuse of depression. The man who
> attempted to seduce my son told me that he only thinks about kids when
> he's
> depressed and "sick in mind and spirit." And those who claim to be gay
> are
> merely hiding behind a gay mask. Some of them do prefer sexual relations
> with other men over sex with women, but the main focus of their desire is
> young boys who are around the age of puberty. Most pedophiles have never
> been able to maintain a close and loving sexual relationship with either
> men
> or women.
wrong
> In the case of a boy who is seduced by a man, the boy may grow up
> thinking that he is gay.
wrong most boys turn their attention to girls when they reach pubity
only a small number will be homo
After talking with many gay men, I discovered that
> a high percentage were molested or seduced by older men when they were
> kids.
> Most said that it has adversely affcted their entire lives and that they
> are
> vehemently opposed to the NAMBLA view- point. The very thought of
> pedophilia appalls and disgusts them. A very few claimed that as young
> boys
> they enjoyed sexual interactions with much older men. One can only wonder
> whether these particular men would be gay today if they had not been
> sexually molested as kids. I have personally come to the conclusion that
> there are various reasons as to the cause of homosexuality. I think that
> some are biological gays, some are gay by choice and still others are what
> I
> call psychological gays.
yes some are born that way
These are the ones who have become gay because of
> psychological trauma they endured as kids. Because of either isolated or
> ongoing incidents, they felt "different" from a young age, and because of
> the feeling of being "different" they bought into the idea that they must
> be
> gay. I believe that biological gays have never been attracted to women;
> their hearts only go pitter patter over other men.
true
Non-biological gays, on
> the other hand, have often been attracted to women and many have even been
> married. When a gay friend tells you that his first love was a sixteen
> year
> old girl in high school named Rita, and that as a teenager he enjoyed
> looking at women's breasts, you can only assume that he is not a
> biological
> gay.
he is a bysexual
> Since this webpage is about pedophelia and not about the possible
> causes of homo-sexuality, I will stop digressing and go back to the
> business
> of how to protect kids from pedophiles. To keep kids safe we must, of
> course, educate them on what to look out for. As parents we must be very
> careful who we allow to be alone with our kids.
true
As leaders of various
> organizations, we must do COMPLETE background checks on everyone who is
> allowed to interact with or be a mentor to kids. Even then the children
> will not be 100% safe, for many pedophiles have not been caught yet and so
> do not have a record. These men are able to pass a background check.
> The man who attempted to seduce my son volunteers with an
> organization
> called Trucker Buddy International. It consists of over-the-road truck
> drivers; each of these volunteers is given a classroom of grade school
> children. They send their classrooms such things as postcards and letters
> from the various states they travel to. The children then send the
> drivers
> individual letters. It's rather like a penpal program between the
> truckers
> and the children. There are also occasional classroom visits by the
> truckers involved in the program. It's a good program that can be used to
> teach geography as well as letter writing skills and spelling.
> Trucker Buddies, as they are called, must undergo a background check
> to
> see if they have any record of crimes against children or of violence in
> general. Apparently the background check did not go back far enough and
> perhaps only covered the state he lived in, as this man admitted to me
> that
> he had been in jail for beating up the man he had caught his wife in bed
> with. He also told me that he had been kicked out of Berkeley for
> punching
> a professor. Because these incidents did not show up on his background
> check, he is allowed to be in the program. He is allowed to be around an
> entire classroom of kids. He was assigned to mentor a class of young
> second
> graders in New Jersey. This man even got to be Trucker Buddy of the
> Month.
> He was nominated by the teacher and the class with which he volunteered.
> I
> was somewhat relieved to find out that these truckers are not allowed to
> be
> alone with the kids, but when I saw his picture on the internet sitting in
> front of an entire classroom of innocent children, I got a very sick
> feeling
> in the pit of my stomach.
> I did notify the Director of the program, Ellen Voie, about this man.
> I even sent her copies of the emails he had sent me in which he freely
> admitted that he fantasizes about boys, that he shares a bed with the
> young
> teenage son of his roommate and that he takes baths with her children.
> Ms.
> Voie sent me a reply that stated that was not formal proof that he was
> unfit
> to be a Trucker Buddy. She allowed him to give his version of the story,
> and of course he was not honest with her. He told her that I was just
> angry
> with him. She apparently believed him even though she had the proof right
> before her eyes. This is not the first time that Trucker Buddies has come
> under the scrutiny of parent and community watchdogs. Even though this
> man
> is not allowed to be alone with the class, I have an idea that if the
> parents of these children knew that he admits to fantasizing about kids
> and
> that he wrote my twelve-year-old son an email stating that he wanted to
> "cuddle and snuggle and be sexual" with him, they would not want him
> anywhere near their own children. Ms. Voie even banned me from the
> truckerbuddy.org forum because I posted a link to this website and tried
> to
> educate teachers on how to protect the kids.
> It is clear that the best way to protect kids from becoming victims
> of
> pedophiles is to educate them. Make them aware that there are people in
> this world who do not have their best interests at heart. Tell them about
> good touch and bad touch in an age-appropriate way. Tell them that
> sometimes people who appear to be nice and friendly and generous are in
> actuality very sick people who need help. Make it clear to the kids that
> if
> someone should ever try to molest them or hurt them in any way, or if
> someone tries to seduce them or do anything that the child feels
> uncomfortable with, that it is not the child's fault. Tell the kids the
> things that these men will do and say to get them not to tell an adult
> what
> happened. Discuss with your kids the ways that pedophiles and child
> molesters operate. You certainly don't have to go into a lot of sordid
> details; just tell them that if anyone ever tries to touch their private
> parts, or tries to get the child to touch their private parts, they are to
> tell you immediately. Make it clear that these men are very sick people
> and
> that they need help. What they are doing or attempting to do is not only
> wrong but also illegal. The more we educate the kids about these issues,
> the more likely they are to be assertive about turning these guys in.
> Learn the profile of a pedophile so that it's easier for you to spot
> the warning signs. A pedophile is usually an adult male who is frequently
> hard-working and appears to be family-oriented. Pedophiles seem to like
> kids and go out of their way to be around them. Indeed, they prefer the
> company of kids to that of adults. They tend to be well-liked by both
> kids
> and adults. However, they are often loners. Although they usually have a
> lot of acquaintances who like them, they seem to have few very close
> friends.
> Pedophiles gradually target and slowly seduce their victims. They
> look
> for kids who come from single-parent homes and who may appear to be quiet
> and needy. They also give kids who are not needy a lot of attention in
> order to get other adults to trust them. They spend a lot of time around
> kids and do not hesitate to spend money on them. They get the kids to
> genuinely like them. They also get the parents to like them. Pedophiles
> often pretend to like the child's single mom and they try to cultivate a
> friendship with her. If she allows the friendship to develop, she often
> becomes devastated when she finds out that this man never wanted to be her
> friend in the first place; he was only using her to get to her child.
> How do you know if your child has already been seduced or molested or
> approached by a pedophile? There are warning signs to be on the lookout
> for. If your child always liked school but suddenly does not want to go,
> something is going on. It could be that he has merely had a fight with
> another student or was scolded by a teacher. On the other hand, perhaps
> someone has approached him in a sexual way. Is there a change in his
> behavior or have his grades taken a nose dive? If so, it's time to take a
> look at what may be going on in the child's life that you don't know
> about.
> The same holds true if your child suddenly has mood changes or aggressive
> behavior that he did not previously display.
> Does your child suddenly seem withdrawn and preoccupied? Does he
> have
> new toys, clothes or money that you can't account for? Does he have a
> loss
> of appetite? Does he have nightmares or have trouble sleeping at night?
> Does he exhibit sexual behavior or language that is inappropriate for his
> age? Does he draw pictures of the private parts of the human body? All
> of
> these things are signs that it's time to find out what's going on. If you
> don't feel comfortable talking to your child about these things, then find
> someone who does. Don't be afraid or ashamed to take your child to
> counseling if you are concerned that someone may have harmed or tried to
> harm him. If you don't help him in this way, who will?
> The bottom line is that we can't hide our heads in the sand about the
> issue of pedophilia. It's time to stand up and fight. These are our
> children we're talking about. If we feel that something may be going on
> or
> if someone may be in the process of grooming our kids for seduction, it's
> time to do something about it. Far too many kids, both boys and girls,
> are
> sexually abused and molested every day. It's time to put a stop to it.
> The
> future of our children depends on it. Don't allow these men to get away
> with their sick crimes against children. Stop saying, "Oh, I don't think
> he
> would do something like that," if your gut feeling is that he most
> certainly
> would do something like that. Quit giving these guys the benefit of the
> doubt. Our kids should not have to go through hell for years and then
> grow
> up and finally decide to go to counseling on their own before they finally
> have the courage to step forward and tell their stories. They should be
> able to feel safe and protected now. We as parents must have the courage
> to
> step forward and put these men away, either in jail or in some kind of
> intense psychiatric counseling facility, where they cannot do any more
> harm.
> I made the mistake of trying to help a pedophile myself, and I can
> tell
> you that it was a big mistake. In no way was I qualified to intervene in
> that type of situation. I felt compassion and I genuinely liked the man
> because he was funny, intelligent and gave great hugs, but in the end I
> had
> to face reality. I had to realize that he had used me to try to seduce my
> son. I finally had to accept the advice of all my friends and family
> members. I ended up being hurt immensely by the entire situation. The
> fact
> that the man in question did not care that he hurt me and my son only
> intensified my pain. He felt no remorse. When I confronted him he sent
> me
> an email stating that my son had been taught right from wrong by myself
> and
> his older brothers and therefore he was old enough to make up his own
> mind.
> He was only angry that he got caught. My son and I learned a lot through
> these experiences and we came away older and wiser. Now I'm trying to
> educate other parents so at least some good can come it. If I can help to
> save even one child from the clutches of a pedophile, then I will have
> made
> lemonade out of the lemons that I was given.
a bit long james but very interesting, see you can write intelegently
and i was able to read it in total
Wonderer
>
>
> --
> Dr.Reality aka James Riske
>
>
> "The only thing necessary for evil to triumph is for good men to do
> nothing."--Edmund Burke
>
> "Why have homosexuals lead the majority of hiv infections in America for
> over two decades?"-- Dennis Smith
>
> "America is already heading for the depths of hell, and now they want to
> legalize homosexual marriage?"-- Matthias Schmitt
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