In article <cr0ahj$2cr$0@pita.alt.net>, James Riske
<james_riske@nothingwillhappen_hotmail.com> wrote:
> I think this is a good enough motive for pedophile "boy-lovers" who
> claim to put the childs interests above their own to commit suicide.
> If any of you vile sickos have a bit of money make sure your victims get
> it after you wipe yourself from the earth, it's the least you could do...
>
>
> http://www.dailybreeze.com/news/articles/1166887.html
>
>
> Victim of alleged pedophile will cash in on his estate
>
> The alleged victim, now 23 years old, will receive half of Matthew
> Lipman's assets. He says the Hermosa Beach resident molested him as a
> child.
> By Denise Nix
> Daily Breeze
>
> When he was about 11 years old, he met Mathew Lipman on the beach.
> Lipman saw a potentially exceptional athlete and they quickly became
> friends. For the next eight or so years, Lipman was his coach, a
> stand-in parent and his molester.
>
> The abuse bothered the boy. But he never said anything, fearing he
> would lose all the great things that came with Lipman's fellowship.
>
> This is a common pedophile-victim phenomenon, according to
> psychologists who gave deposition testimony in a lawsuit the boy, now
> 23, filed against Lipman's estate after Lipman, 49, committed suicide
> while under investigation.
>
> Pedophiles first put themselves in a position where they have access to
> children -- like coaching, the clergy or teaching, said UCLA human
> sexuality professor Paul Abramson.
>
> Then, once they gain the child's and parents' trust, the pedophile will
> create situations in which they are alone with the child and give the
> child affection, attention or gifts that will make the child view the
> relationship as positive and worthwhile, Abramson testified.
>
> "It's a common question that defense attorneys will ask kids. 'Well,
> other than the bad part, was he a good guy?' " Abramson said during his
> Dec. 2 deposition.
>
> "They will say, 'Yeah, he is a good guy,' " Abramson added. "Being the
> good guy is the act or conduit through which they molest the kids.
> Because if they weren't good guys, the kids would say, 'I'm not going
> to hang around with that one.' "
>
> A jury will never hear Abramson's testimony, as the lawsuit was settled
> earlier this month just as jury selection was about to begin in
> Torrance Superior Court.
>
> The plaintiff will receive half of Lipman's assets, which include some
> personal possessions, bank accounts and a Hermosa Beach house in the
> 200 block of Second Street, estimated to be worth $850,000 to $1
> million, according to the plaintiff's attorney, Albro Lundy.
>
> "The bottom line for us was (the lawsuit was) a way in which my client
> could get justice and closure and, really, if truth be told, it was
> going to be a very sad, sad trial," Lundy said, noting that it would
> have probably lasted through Christmas.
>
> Eric F. Edmunds Jr., the attorney who represented Lipman's estate,
> confirmed the case had been settled, including cross-claims the estate
> filed against the plaintiff's parents. But Edmunds declined to discuss
> the case or settlement in detail.
>
> "It would have been a very bruising and unpleasant experience that I
> think was best avoided all around," Edmunds added.
>
> The depositions in the case hint that the estate, overseen by Lipman's
> sister Michele Lipman, was positioning a defense that purported to show
> the man's parents were negligent for allowing him to live with Lipman
> and that the contact was consensual.
>
> In his deposition, the plaintiff, whose identifying information is
> being withheld to protect his privacy, said for about a year after he
> met Lipman on Mothers Beach in Marina del Rey that he would see Lipman
> on the weekends.
>
> Lipman coached him and, after games, he would go to Lipman's house
> where he would watch television, eat and play with the cat.
>
> But when he started showering at Lipman's house, he noticed Lipman
> watching him, the plaintiff testified.
>
> The fifth or sixth time he showered there, Lipman reached in and
> fondled him, he said.
>
> During questioning by Edmunds, the plaintiff acknowledged he never said
> "no" or that he didn't like it, even as the fondling continued for
> years. He did rebuff several attempts by Lipman to have sex or oral sex
> with him, he said.
>
> Lived with man as teen
>
> The man lived with Lipman for about four years beginning in the 10th
> grade so that he could attend a school with a good sports team. His
> parents, who were divorced, gave guardianship to Lipman, saying in
> their own depositions that they never had any reason to mistrust him
> and liked that their son was getting opportunities he wouldn't have
> living with either of them.
>
> He moved away, but around Thanksgiving 2002, returned to Hermosa Beach
> for a visit and stayed with Lipman, who is alleged to have raped him at
> knife point.
>
> Embarrassed, the plaintiff said he still chose not to tell anyone about
> Lipman. But six months later, when he learned Lipman allegedly made a
> pass at his younger brother, he called the Hermosa Beach Police
> Department.
>
> "The week before I was watching TV and I saw an episode of 'Law and
> Order' about child molesters, and that was a deciding factor in my
> decision to go to the police," he said. "It kind of snapped me into
> reality about the magnitude of what was going on and the possibility of
> him doing this to other people."
>
> The plaintiff knew Lipman was involved with the Catholic Big Brothers,
> had hosted a foreign exchange student and had contact with other
> children through sports, although he added he has no reason to believe
> Lipman molested anyone else.
>
> Sgt. Steve Endom flew to the man's out-of-state city and had the man
> place a scripted, tape-recorded call to Lipman on June 6, 2003.
>
> In the conversation, Lipman apologized, but said he was careful to
> never force the boy to do anything and denied that he sodomized the man
> the previous fall.
>
> "I wasn't trying to hurt you. I, as a matter of fact, you actually were
> my best friend," Lipman said, according to the transcript.
>
> The man answered: "I was a little kid. Why would you do that when I was
> so young? Did you think that would make me more of a friend?"
>
> "I just, I was just trying to be close to you," Lipman replied.
>
> Search turned up items
>
> When Lipman was arrested, he gave evasive answers to Endom about the
> molestations. A search of Lipman's home turned up a smashed hard drive,
> videocassettes with the magnetic tape pulled out and torn-up pictures
> of the plaintiff that were not pornographic. Police also found a
> collection of movies that had common themes of young boys coming of
> age.
>
> As the investigation continued, Lipman was out on bail. Sometime around
> June 21, 2003, he committed suicide by suffocating himself. He left
> behind a note that said some of the allegations were true, some were
> lies.
>
> He wrote that his "best friend betrayed me," and that, along with other
> problems, he is extremely claustrophobic. "I'd rather be dead than
> spend a year in jail," he wrote.
>
> Edmunds asked the plaintiff during his deposition in June if he was
> sorry he lived with Lipman.
>
> "No. There are many great things that came with me living with him.
> There are many not so great things that came about from me living with
> him," answered the man, who is now married.
>
> Edmunds also asked how the plaintiff felt about Lipman being dead.
>
> "I wish he was alive and well, just like he was when I was with him,"
> he answered.
>
> Abramson testified that Lipman had "total emotional disregard" for the
> man, both when he molested him and then when he blamed him for his
> death. Lipman traumatized the man, he said.
>
> "All of his behavior was part of an act of courtship to gain access --
> access and confidence to (the plaintiff) and his family so he could
> sexually molest him and that was the purpose of it," Abramson said.
>
> "If he was a true parent or his quasi-parent or whatever else, you
> don't sexually molest your kid and you don't kill yourself for your
> kid, and that's what this guy did," Abramson said.
>
> Abramson is also a paid expert witness in a child molesting case
> profiled by Sports Illustrated in 1999 and on the "Oprah Winfrey Show".
> In that case, Norm Watson, a Little League coach, was discovered to be
> a convicted child molester.
>
> When the Little League board was notified, it stood by Watson. The
> parents of the kids, though, called for an investigation and it turned
> out Watson was still molesting children.
>
> A lot of times, when a child molester doesn't fit a preconceived
> profile, people -- often parents -- don't even think twice about it,
> Abramson said.
>
> This was the case with Lipman. The boy's father said he thought Lipman
> was a "guy's guy" and thought of molestations in terms of "dirty old
> man/young girl," Abramson testified.
>
> Molesters may not fit profile
>
> "Successful pedophiles are successful because of the manner in which
> they are able to deflect the ability to perceive them as pedophiles,"
> Abramson added.
>
> Even responsible parents wouldn't think to perform background checks
> and question every adult who comes into contact with their children,
> Abramson found.
>
> Lundy, the plaintiff's attorney, who said the Lipman case raised
> concerns for him since he has two boys and lived close by, wants
> parents to be aware that child molesters aren't always the overt demons
> they would expect.
>
> "Satan was the most beautiful angel," Abramson said, "and that's why he
> was able to seduce so many."
Thank you for posting this. We all need to be reminded of the bad
things, so we can be on guard against them, and can be more aware of
the bad possibilities, so we can work to prevent them.
There is one thing I should mention about this. Mr. Abramson is
obviously not a psychologist. He made, as reported, many assumptions
that are unsupported by the observed facts, regarding psychological
matters, some of which are obviously false. Why should we care? Because
we need to understand the REAL TRUTH about these situations, and not
just what angry people want to hear, so we can have a better chance of
preventing these things from happening, and can more effectively treat
the survivors. Misinformation, for the purpose of prosecution, does NOT
help our true understanding of these matters.
Y Not
what right do we have to complain,
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