I think this is a good enough motive for pedophile "boy-lovers" who
claim to put the childs interests above their own to commit suicide.
If any of you vile sickos have a bit of money make sure your victims get
it after you wipe yourself from the earth, it's the least you could do...
http://www.dailybreeze.com/news/articles/1166887.html
Victim of alleged pedophile will cash in on his estate
The alleged victim, now 23 years old, will receive half of Matthew
Lipman's assets. He says the Hermosa Beach resident molested him as a
child.
By Denise Nix
Daily Breeze
When he was about 11 years old, he met Mathew Lipman on the beach.
Lipman saw a potentially exceptional athlete and they quickly became
friends. For the next eight or so years, Lipman was his coach, a
stand-in parent and his molester.
The abuse bothered the boy. But he never said anything, fearing he
would lose all the great things that came with Lipman's fellowship.
This is a common pedophile-victim phenomenon, according to
psychologists who gave deposition testimony in a lawsuit the boy, now
23, filed against Lipman's estate after Lipman, 49, committed suicide
while under investigation.
Pedophiles first put themselves in a position where they have access to
children -- like coaching, the clergy or teaching, said UCLA human
sexuality professor Paul Abramson.
Then, once they gain the child's and parents' trust, the pedophile will
create situations in which they are alone with the child and give the
child affection, attention or gifts that will make the child view the
relationship as positive and worthwhile, Abramson testified.
"It's a common question that defense attorneys will ask kids. 'Well,
other than the bad part, was he a good guy?' " Abramson said during his
Dec. 2 deposition.
"They will say, 'Yeah, he is a good guy,' " Abramson added. "Being the
good guy is the act or conduit through which they molest the kids.
Because if they weren't good guys, the kids would say, 'I'm not going
to hang around with that one.' "
A jury will never hear Abramson's testimony, as the lawsuit was settled
earlier this month just as jury selection was about to begin in
Torrance Superior Court.
The plaintiff will receive half of Lipman's assets, which include some
personal possessions, bank accounts and a Hermosa Beach house in the
200 block of Second Street, estimated to be worth $850,000 to $1
million, according to the plaintiff's attorney, Albro Lundy.
"The bottom line for us was (the lawsuit was) a way in which my client
could get justice and closure and, really, if truth be told, it was
going to be a very sad, sad trial," Lundy said, noting that it would
have probably lasted through Christmas.
Eric F. Edmunds Jr., the attorney who represented Lipman's estate,
confirmed the case had been settled, including cross-claims the estate
filed against the plaintiff's parents. But Edmunds declined to discuss
the case or settlement in detail.
"It would have been a very bruising and unpleasant experience that I
think was best avoided all around," Edmunds added.
The depositions in the case hint that the estate, overseen by Lipman's
sister Michele Lipman, was positioning a defense that purported to show
the man's parents were negligent for allowing him to live with Lipman
and that the contact was consensual.
In his deposition, the plaintiff, whose identifying information is
being withheld to protect his privacy, said for about a year after he
met Lipman on Mothers Beach in Marina del Rey that he would see Lipman
on the weekends.
Lipman coached him and, after games, he would go to Lipman's house
where he would watch television, eat and play with the cat.
But when he started showering at Lipman's house, he noticed Lipman
watching him, the plaintiff testified.
The fifth or sixth time he showered there, Lipman reached in and
fondled him, he said.
During questioning by Edmunds, the plaintiff acknowledged he never said
"no" or that he didn't like it, even as the fondling continued for
years. He did rebuff several attempts by Lipman to have sex or oral sex
with him, he said.
Lived with man as teen
The man lived with Lipman for about four years beginning in the 10th
grade so that he could attend a school with a good sports team. His
parents, who were divorced, gave guardianship to Lipman, saying in
their own depositions that they never had any reason to mistrust him
and liked that their son was getting opportunities he wouldn't have
living with either of them.
He moved away, but around Thanksgiving 2002, returned to Hermosa Beach
for a visit and stayed with Lipman, who is alleged to have raped him at
knife point.
Embarrassed, the plaintiff said he still chose not to tell anyone about
Lipman. But six months later, when he learned Lipman allegedly made a
pass at his younger brother, he called the Hermosa Beach Police
Department.
"The week before I was watching TV and I saw an episode of 'Law and
Order' about child molesters, and that was a deciding factor in my
decision to go to the police," he said. "It kind of snapped me into
reality about the magnitude of what was going on and the possibility of
him doing this to other people."
The plaintiff knew Lipman was involved with the Catholic Big Brothers,
had hosted a foreign exchange student and had contact with other
children through sports, although he added he has no reason to believe
Lipman molested anyone else.
Sgt. Steve Endom flew to the man's out-of-state city and had the man
place a scripted, tape-recorded call to Lipman on June 6, 2003.
In the conversation, Lipman apologized, but said he was careful to
never force the boy to do anything and denied that he sodomized the man
the previous fall.
"I wasn't trying to hurt you. I, as a matter of fact, you actually were
my best friend," Lipman said, according to the transcript.
The man answered: "I was a little kid. Why would you do that when I was
so young? Did you think that would make me more of a friend?"
"I just, I was just trying to be close to you," Lipman replied.
Search turned up items
When Lipman was arrested, he gave evasive answers to Endom about the
molestations. A search of Lipman's home turned up a smashed hard drive,
videocassettes with the magnetic tape pulled out and torn-up pictures
of the plaintiff that were not pornographic. Police also found a
collection of movies that had common themes of young boys coming of
age.
As the investigation continued, Lipman was out on bail. Sometime around
June 21, 2003, he committed suicide by suffocating himself. He left
behind a note that said some of the allegations were true, some were
lies.
He wrote that his "best friend betrayed me," and that, along with other
problems, he is extremely claustrophobic. "I'd rather be dead than
spend a year in jail," he wrote.
Edmunds asked the plaintiff during his deposition in June if he was
sorry he lived with Lipman.
"No. There are many great things that came with me living with him.
There are many not so great things that came about from me living with
him," answered the man, who is now married.
Edmunds also asked how the plaintiff felt about Lipman being dead.
"I wish he was alive and well, just like he was when I was with him,"
he answered.
Abramson testified that Lipman had "total emotional disregard" for the
man, both when he molested him and then when he blamed him for his
death. Lipman traumatized the man, he said.
"All of his behavior was part of an act of courtship to gain access --
access and confidence to (the plaintiff) and his family so he could
sexually molest him and that was the purpose of it," Abramson said.
"If he was a true parent or his quasi-parent or whatever else, you
don't sexually molest your kid and you don't kill yourself for your
kid, and that's what this guy did," Abramson said.
Abramson is also a paid expert witness in a child molesting case
profiled by Sports Illustrated in 1999 and on the "Oprah Winfrey Show".
In that case, Norm Watson, a Little League coach, was discovered to be
a convicted child molester.
When the Little League board was notified, it stood by Watson. The
parents of the kids, though, called for an investigation and it turned
out Watson was still molesting children.
A lot of times, when a child molester doesn't fit a preconceived
profile, people -- often parents -- don't even think twice about it,
Abramson said.
This was the case with Lipman. The boy's father said he thought Lipman
was a "guy's guy" and thought of molestations in terms of "dirty old
man/young girl," Abramson testified.
Molesters may not fit profile
"Successful pedophiles are successful because of the manner in which
they are able to deflect the ability to perceive them as pedophiles,"
Abramson added.
Even responsible parents wouldn't think to perform background checks
and question every adult who comes into contact with their children,
Abramson found.
Lundy, the plaintiff's attorney, who said the Lipman case raised
concerns for him since he has two boys and lived close by, wants
parents to be aware that child molesters aren't always the overt demons
they would expect.
"Satan was the most beautiful angel," Abramson said, "and that's why he
was able to seduce so many."
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"The only thing necessary for evil to triumph is for good men to do
nothing."--Edmund Burke
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