On Sun, 23 Jun 2013 08:03:59 -0400, Doc NP-f31 wrote:
> On Sun, 23 Jun 2013 09:54:19 GMT, nesScitur@husShmail.com (Ronin)
> wrote:
>> On Sat, 22 Jun 2013 22:30:28 -0400, Doc NP-f31 wrote:
>>> On Sun, 23 Jun 2013 02:08:11 GMT, nesScitur@husShmail.com (Ronin)
>>> wrote:
>>>> On Sat, 22 Jun 2013 16:01:55 -0400, Doc NP-f31 wrote:
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>> Ronin
> Hey Ronin,
> Two things happened with Spencer's saga that made a huge difference.
> 1) Spencer Dad realized how badly his son needed him. And they bonded
> as never before.
> 2) Other boys saw us helping Spencer, or trying to help, in our
> swirling, unfocused way, and emerged seeking help. Do you remember
> who?
If there were others around that time, they are overshadowed by MTB ...
> For the hole in your jaw:
> I had the honor of being able to correspond with Spencer during his
> brief visit to The Fort and for awhile afterward. I also corresponded
> with Spencer Dad. Spencer was aware that his blunder was one of not
> taking Ricky's feelings into proper consideration. And he 'wanted'
> things to be a certain way so badly that he ignored the signs that
> should have warned him off. Spencer's later troubles were a result of
> a divorce that was already underway and an ugly custody battle that
> Spencer Dad was going to lose no matter how perfect he was.
> You did your best. You were not the only one urging caution where
> Ricky's feelings were concerned. We all did our best, and Spencer
> acknowledged that he was being selfish in how he handled the event.
One's best is all one can do; but a less pretentious best, speaking
*forcefully* to the risk of catastrophic loss, might have persuaded
Spencer to at least patience, if not forebearance: true selfishness
is often, in practice, indistinguishable from altruism.
> The irony: if Spencer were 13 today, it would have happened
> differently. In the age of Facebook and texting, a teen's sexuality is
> not the potential scourge it once was. Schools enforce tolerance rules
> and kids are much more open-minded than they were ten years ago.
> Chin up. There are others to help.
Indeed; but there was only one Spencer, as there was only one MTB.
> Love,
> Doc
> NP-f31
Ronin
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