On Fri, 11 Nov 2011 09:36:26 -0500, 4s00th <4s00th@hushmail.com>
wrote:
>On Thu, 10 Nov 2011 17:13:26 -0500, Chester Azziz <chet@galleria.net>
>wrote:
>
>I have to question your taste in this matter. Look, I'm not oblivious
>to the fact that there is an awful lot of sexual abuse perpetrated by
>predators out there -- but I really think we need to be sensitive to
>the boys and girls who are being victimized by these evil bastards. We
>should know better than most that it is certainly possible to control
>these desires and urges -- even if it causes us pain to know we have
>to hold back. But we are boy-lovers -- LOVERS! The idea of satisfying
>our own selfish needs by possibly harming those boys we love is
>anathema to us.
>
>And, just to be honest with you, the constant coverage of this story
>by ESPN hasn't been terribly good for my own mental health. I think
>it's partially about knowing my own struggles to remain a boy-lover
>and not become a predator, but, even worse, it's bringing up a lot of
>my own issues as a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. I've had to
>really push away from my favorite channel over the past few days to
>gain a little perspective.
>
>I don't like that the news is characterizing these boys as "ruined,"
>as if they are permanently damaged goods who have little to no chance
>of happiness -- we all know boys who have become more than mere
>survivors. I won't say that I'm doing more than surviving, but I've
>still managed to do a lot of good things with my life despite the
>pain, despite the problems and despite my self-imposed isolation.
>Nonetheless, we shouldn't make light of the amount of pain and
>suffering that these victims of rape have had to deal with over the
>last few years. Some of them came forth and told -- and were not
>believed! Some of them came forth and told -- and the legal system
>totally failed them! And others suffered silently.
>
>Maybe some of you think that the situation is so sad that you have to
>find a way to laugh or it will drive you to despair -- I can
>understand that. But I just can't see it as appropriate for us -- who
>love boys.
>
>Are others having some of the same problems that I am? I would be
>interested in hearing about it if so.
>
>Love,
>Steve
>-- 4s00th@hushmail.com
>
>My email is always available for those looking for and willing to supply support in the effort to remain boy-lovers and not become child-molesters de jure if not de facto.
Dear Foursoothe,
You'll excuse me if I state that I must strongly protest the tone of
your message. You vehemently object to the "news" characterising the
boys as ruined, yet at every turn in your essay you utilise the very
terminology and philosophy that perpetuates that very result, to wit:
"sexual abuse"
"predators"
"victimised"
"evil bastards"
"selfish needs"
"anathema"
"rape"
I believe that whatever one can say about heterosexual men, one can
equally claim about Boylovers (and I use the term in a much wider
sense than you). There are no lack of heterosexual men who might be
characterised as bad because they are bad people ... caring not
whether they hurt others. Equally, there are, I'm ashamed to say, no
lack of paedophiles about whom can be claimed the same. Yet as there
are an overwhelming majority of good men emotionally and physically
loving women that are good, the same can probably be said about
Boylovers.
But we can't actually know for certain, can we? The culture of
perpetual fear has pushed these individuals into the dark, a culture
which you seem to wish to perpetuate. As far as being isolated ...
you imply you are because of your own negative sexual experience. I
can reassure you, based on my own experience, that there is no group
so isolated by hatred and fear as those who aspire to love boys.
Should X surpress certain behaviours towards Y because society so
overwhelmingly rejects X and stigmitises Y? Is this reason enough at
any time? Think about it. How different and perhaps unjust our world
would ever more be.
Sincerely,
HMS Victor Victorian, NP-g18
God Save the Queen.
God Bless the Prince of Wales.
God Preserve the Windsors.
Rule Britannia!
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