On Tue, 26 Oct 2010 07:43:19 -0600, HMS Victor Victorian
<victorvictorian@hushunomail.com> wrote:
>On Mon, 25 Oct 2010 19:47:58 -0400,
>dudewiththe(REMOVE)hair@hushmail.com wrote:
>
>>Over the past weekend I spent a lot of time with my son and his
>>friends. They're in 8th grade now and life is getting pretty
>>interesting for them. My son and his best friend spent the night
>>together on Friday, which was a laid back affair because they'd spent
>>the evening at the high school football game. I wrote about that this
>>time last year and things are not so much different now except the
>>boys each have girlfriends to hang all over and vice versa. Their peer
>>group didn't see a moment of the game, they were totally tuned in to
>>each other. I watched from a discreet distance and even then when my
>>son caught my eye he realized I could see what he was up to and he and
>>his entourage moved off to somewhere out of my line of sight. The boys
>>were pretty high energy and the girls were the center of attention. It
>>was funny to see my son and his buddies in a sort of frenetic orbit
>>around a small gaggle of girls. The boys spent a lot of energy but
>>succeeded in only getting a couple of kisses and hugs. That's sex in
>>the 8th Grade, which is just fine by me.
>>
>>The situation reversed itself on Saturday night. Saturday night was a
>>birthday party in an upscale neighborhood in a town with money. When I
>>was in 8th grade, boy-girl parties were a staid affair. This one was a
>>rocking house party, complete with a DJ, you could hear the music
>>three blocks off. There were about 50 kids, pretty much the entire
>>eighth grade. It was an '80's themed party. My son's best friend (deep
>>sigh-tall, blonde, blue eyed, gorgeous) came as Kurt Cobain, complete
>>with a vintage Nirvana tee and flannel shirt. I had to point out that
>>Nirvana was big in the '90's, but no matter, he was a smoking hot Kurt
>>Cobain.
>>
>>My wife spent some time and effort on my son's costume. She did his
>>hair and put tons of gel in it. She let him wear her sports jacket (a
>>man's jacket from the 80's) and vintage Vuarnet sunglasses. Oh My God.
>>He looked like John Taylor from Duran Duran. My son was HOT! He even
>>rolled up the sleeves on the jacket like they did. What was
>>fascinating to see was the reaction of the girls when he and his mate
>>arrived at the party. They flocked to the two boys and were touching
>>them and oohing and aahing over them. It was a fine turn of events.
>>The boys were eating it up like it was ice cream. When my son's
>>girlfriend saw him, her reaction was one of stunned amazement. He was
>>much prettier than she was and she's really cute. The scene was the
>>same when I arrived back three hours later to collect my kid. He
>>sauntered up to me like he was a walking-talking boygod (and he is!).
>>His face was flush and he had a shit-eating grin on his face. He went
>>over to thank his hostess and I spoke with her parents until his
>>friend came running up to me. He was wild eyed and hysterically happy.
>>He was probably hopped up on Mountain Dew, he said 'Hi' and gave me an
>>enthusiastic hug and then ran off to hug my son before we left. So
>>that made my night. My son reported that his friend had broken up with
>>his girlfriend at the party that evening because of all the attention
>>he was getting from the other girls. No wonder he was so happy! I
>>asked my son if he danced. He said, yep, every dance with his
>>girlfriend. I asked him if he got a kiss. 'Yeah' he said emphatically,
>>'tons of them!'
>>
>>That's my boy!
>>
>>Doc
>>NP-f31
>
>
>Dear Doc,
>
>I must confess reading your letter made me rather melancholy. How
>very sad it is, however normal (if you'll excuse my use of this
>questionable term) it is for a maturing boy, to see him draw away from
>you and take greater interest in his peers and girls, leaving you the
>meager consolation of observing him from a distance. Much better to
>have and hold and squeeze and give him kisses yourself!
>
>By such longing and regret would I be slain!
>
>And was.
>
>Sincerely,
>
>V
>God Save the Queen.
>God Bless the Prince of Wales.
>God Preserve the Windsors.
>Rule Britannia!
Hey VV,
Don't get me wrong, my son IS more involved with friends and girls,
but that doesn't take anything away from my incredible relationship
with him. We are closer than we've ever been and because he is more
active there is more for us to share with one another. For me the
added bonus is to be able to spend time with he and his friends as
taxi service and escort or security detail. 13 and 14 year old boys
are very much into comparing the man in their life to other Dads they
come across, the girls do the same thing, as I discovered when my
daughter was that age. And even when I am sitting in the stands with
the other Dads and Moms, there are plenty of other sites to keep my
attention. I usually get a full debriefing on the way home too. ;) My
son has some really great friends and I often find myself joining in
with whatever mischief they are involved in, whether it's a
conversation or activity like our geo-caching expedition a couple of
weeks ago. I was listening to one conversation recently where they
were talking about the video game Halo. My son's friend mentioned that
he had fragged his brother's avatar and was 'teabagging' him. I
thought to myself, did I just hear that? I asked him to tell me how
one 'teabagged' another player. He got a little embarrassed and said,
'I stood over him and sort of went up and down'. I said, 'You mean
with your testicles?' and he said, 'Yes sir' and then realized that I
was familiar with the term and started laughing. He said to my son,
'Your Dad knows what teabagging is, how cool is that? He's the only
grown up I know who's heard of that.' I laughed too and said I was
surprised to learn that my kid knew what it was. My son said, 'Come
on, Dad. I get around.'
Too funny.
Thanks VV for your concern, but I couldn't be happier with my
relationship with my son.
Love,
Doc
NP-f31
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