On Tue, 24 Aug 2010 09:16:06 -0700, Z NP-f6 wrote
(in article <umq776tuv4sjb3q8b7cosfn2lp05usa2o6@4ax.com>):
> On Sun, 22 Aug 2010 10:30:47 -0400, NP-f31 wrote:
>
> (snip)
>>
>> What I've learned is my kid IS paying attention, and not just when I
>> tell him 'this is something you need to remember'. He is modelling
>> himself after me. That is what Dads are for. That is what boylovers
>> should aspire to be. For all the beauty of a boy and all the
>> enchantment he can bring to your life, what is important is what YOU
>> can mean for HIM. Even when you have less access to a boy, like with
>> me and T-Bone or Mac, the time you spend with them talking and doing
>> things has an accumulative effect. Even if you're just cutting up and
>> having fun, they ARE watching and what you do for them has a lifelong
>> effect. I pray that every boylover who is brave and lucky enough to
>> take on a loved boy remembers that whether he tries purposefully or
>> not, he IS having a permanent impact on the boy he loves. By loving
>> your boy unselfishly, you guarantee that your legacy will be a
>> positive one.
>>
>> Love,
>>
>> Doc
>>
>> PS-Sorry Z if that last paragraph came off a bit preachy. I know you
>> get it, but you're not the only one who will read this. Mea culpa.
>
> Not at all preachy, Doc! Look around and everywhere people are fouling
> up kids by sending them the wrong messages.
>
> Given my circumstances and character I know that I will never be able
> to bring up a kid but I try with all the kids I meet to remember that,
> even with the most casual meetings, they are watching and learning!
>
> It's easier for part-time people like me than for committed people
> like you which is why I respect what you do so much.
>
> On a more mundane note, don't let that youngest boy of yours get
> swollen-headed.
>
> Love from Z
Absolutely true.
The question is NEVER if a kid learns anything. They are doing nothing else
all the time.
The question is WHAT did they learn? WHAT did you teach them?
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