Lisa,
This probably isn't the best forum for this question since most of the
real people here are pro-masturbation. That said, I'll try to help.
Reaching an orgasm through masturbation, for me, is much easier than
intercourse. I know where all the right "buttons" are and can push them
in the right order. At the point of orgasm I can apply the right
pressure,
rhythm angle etc to reach a more intense and complete orgasm than I
can with a partner. That's not saying that I prefer masturbation over
sex
because there are a lot of things that coupled sex brings to the table
that masturbation never can. Like being able to share that orgasm with
someone else in a close embrace as well as the satisfation of pleasing
your partner sexually.
Then there's the physical aspect. Doing pushups with your face in a
pillow
for an hour or two is much more strenuous than lying on your back
moving
your fist up and down.
I've been in situations before where I simply could not acheive orgasm
while having sex. I often experience what I call the morning blues. I
almost always wake up horny as hell. Which delighted my wife at first
until she discovered that at some point, usually when I'm close to
orgasm
I simply shrivel up. Stimulation still feels good but at that point I
can no longer
perform sexually and I usually have to finish by masturbating. Any
other
time of the day, Mr Happy performs like a trooper. My wife has figured
out
that the morning hornies are best for me to handle.
I would say that as long as you two are still having intercourse and he
is
sincere in his efforts to fulfill your needs I wouldn't be terribly
concerned.
There are sexual positions that are more stimulating than others for
example
doggy-style always works well for me because her pelvis bone hits those
buttons I was talking about quite nicely. You might consider it fun to
try
different positions to try to find ones that work well for him or both
of you.
You might also encourage him to pull out when he is close ot orgasm
and masturbate himself to cum on your tummy, ass or whatever just
like a porn star.
If he insists on masturbating, get involved. Caress him and talk dirty
to
him. Tell him what a wonderful cock he has and how you can't wait to
see him shoot his load. Offer him up something to aim at like your
breasts
or hold him tightly and kiss him deeply while he cums.
Mutual masturbation can also be very fulfilling. Get yourself a dildo
or massager
and share the experience with him. Not only do you both get a wonderful
visual
show watching each other there is far less guilt for both of you if you
do it together.
Perhaps you could surprise him some night by taking him to bed early
and telling
him that since you don't want him keeping you up in the wee hours in
the morning
jerkin his gerkin that you are going to do it together BEFORE bedtime.
Hope it helps or at least gives you a few ideas,
Onan
lisainpa03@aol.com wrote:
> My fiance is always masturbating, even in his sleep.
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Can anyone offer feedback?
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