On Thu, 10 Nov 2011 17:13:26 -0500, Chester Azziz <chet@galleria.net>
wrote:
I have to question your taste in this matter. Look, I'm not oblivious
to the fact that there is an awful lot of sexual abuse perpetrated by
predators out there -- but I really think we need to be sensitive to
the boys and girls who are being victimized by these evil bastards. We
should know better than most that it is certainly possible to control
these desires and urges -- even if it causes us pain to know we have
to hold back. But we are boy-lovers -- LOVERS! The idea of satisfying
our own selfish needs by possibly harming those boys we love is
anathema to us.
And, just to be honest with you, the constant coverage of this story
by ESPN hasn't been terribly good for my own mental health. I think
it's partially about knowing my own struggles to remain a boy-lover
and not become a predator, but, even worse, it's bringing up a lot of
my own issues as a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. I've had to
really push away from my favorite channel over the past few days to
gain a little perspective.
I don't like that the news is characterizing these boys as "ruined,"
as if they are permanently damaged goods who have little to no chance
of happiness -- we all know boys who have become more than mere
survivors. I won't say that I'm doing more than surviving, but I've
still managed to do a lot of good things with my life despite the
pain, despite the problems and despite my self-imposed isolation.
Nonetheless, we shouldn't make light of the amount of pain and
suffering that these victims of rape have had to deal with over the
last few years. Some of them came forth and told -- and were not
believed! Some of them came forth and told -- and the legal system
totally failed them! And others suffered silently.
Maybe some of you think that the situation is so sad that you have to
find a way to laugh or it will drive you to despair -- I can
understand that. But I just can't see it as appropriate for us -- who
love boys.
Are others having some of the same problems that I am? I would be
interested in hearing about it if so.
Love,
Steve
-- 4s00th@hushmail.com
My email is always available for those looking for and willing to supply support in the effort to remain boy-lovers and not become child-molesters de jure if not de facto.
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